The vile sex assault comments we couldn’t publish
A Queensland MP has hit back at myriad derogatory comments that were made after she courageously shared her horrifying sexual abuse and assault experiences.
Former Young Australian of the Year Jonty Bush yesterday revealed her stories to The Courier-Mail which included being pinned against a wall by a man twice her age and being assaulted by a friend's father.
But more than 100 horror comments were rejected from The Courier-Mail's website, including claims Ms Bush was "starving for publicity" while another wrote "the future is female who come up with that crap".
Another wrote they would "throw a gallon of sump oil" over the MP's 'The Future is Female' shirt.
Several others victim-blamed saying "you go to a man's hotel room, when he's alone, late at night, are you just stupid or that pretentious?"
Others said #MeToo was nonsense and it would blow over soon.
The Courier-Mail moderators rejected many of the vile comments but - with Ms Bush's permission - will publish them below to show just how far Australia still has to go before sex assault complaints by women are truly taken seriously.
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Ms Bush today said the comments weren't anything she hadn't heard or read before and was glad they were being published.
"I can't imagine they are new to any woman," she said.
The Cooper MP said when someone is harassed or assaulted, the immediate response from some was to blame the victim and ask how their behaviour contributed to it.
"Here's the answer: It didn't. It never does," she said.
"It does not matter what you were wearing or whether you were drunk or whether you placed your trust in the wrong person.
"It's not your fault - the blame lies 100 per cent with the person who assaulted you or harassed you or breached your trust.
"That's something I really want the survivors who are reading this to know."
Ms Bush was one of many politicians who this week bravely shared their experiences with sexual harassment after Health Minister Yvette D'Ath revealed two incidents that took place during her early teens then at 18.
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Premier Annastacia Palaszczuk, who this week attended a mammoth March 4 Justice rally in Brisbane with much of her Cabinet, encouraged women to turn their voices into a roar.
"I see people asking things along the lines of "What do women expect if they dress provocatively and drink alcohol?"," Ms Bush said.
"They expect to be safe, and to be respected.
"They expect to go out and wear whatever they like, drink and dance free from assault. "Again, why should they expect anything different?
"And let me be clear for the blokes - it doesn't mean you can't approach a woman and offer to buy her a drink or have a dance - of course you can - but just because a person's okay
with that it doesn't necessarily translate that they're going to want to have sex.
"Again, it's about respect and having an understanding that consent must be given freely, it cannot be implied or coerced."
Ms Bush said the reality was most women didn't speak up because of comments like these detailed below.
"The women you do see speaking out publicly are a tiny proportion of the women who have been sexually assaulted or harassed - every woman has these stories to tell," she said.
EXAMPLES OF THE REJECTED COMMENTS
- You go to a man's hotel room, when he's alone, late at night, are you just stupid or that pretentious?
- What possessed you to go into a grown man's bedroom and ask for 'toothpaste'? Seriously, you never go into someone's hotel room unless you are going to sleep with them. This is life skill 101 and something every young woman should know. You can't keep blaming men for your own poor judgment. Bet this get censored!
- Oh, please. how much more of this #metoo nonsense are we going to have rammed down our throats. This is worse than the Markle debacle. Most youths go through some form of harassment as they grow up. Don't drag your dirty laundry out for five minutes in the spotlight. S..t happens, live with it like everyone else has to.
- Give it time. This'll all blow over and people will get back to living their lives.
- Being the devil's advocate, I regularly see scantily dressed women full as state school hat racks flaunting themselves at men. Just sayin'. "Hiya big boy!"
- Are you serious? Should guys have their eyes poked out for perving - you women cut the bush so it won't peek out from the skimpy bikini bottoms you wear to public beaches and then cry abuse when a male stares. You want to be attractive to the opposite sex then cry foul when the advertising works
- If you're gonna make claims, name the people involved and if you're lying face being sued!!
- So it happens, been going on for many years. I was molested by a family friend over 60 yrs ago as a 6 -11 yr old. As was my 2 sisters. He got away with it. This new generation of women think they are the only ones to have suffered, they are not. Many women put themselves in vulnerable positions and this allows those that commit these offences to do horrible things while their defences are down. But we can't blame the PM, what has he got to do with it. Women also have to take some responsibility for their own actions. Stop playing the blame game and get on with life or the perpetrators win.
- My god borrow some toothpaste are you kidding.
- What a load of BS. These greenie/ Labor idiots have to get on the "look at me" bandwagon. Get a life, it's not about you!
- I am over this stuff. No point speaking out now. Should have done something at the time.
- Sorry for all those women who have suffered from sexual harassment. But going to parties and getting drunk is not a sensible thing for anyone to do. That can lead to all sorts of unfortunate misunderstandings and outcomes.
- Perhaps we older women didn't party and drink as much? Perhaps we were more careful? Perhaps we were more forthright and just told any sexual predator to get lost? It seems we were a more careful and tougher lot.
- Interesting how many times you found yourself in difficult situations
- Jump on the bandwagon, how about a few of us blokes share a few stories of drunken women who try it on.
- The problem with all of this stuff, is that seeks to join together a series of completely unrelated anecdotes and effectively smears men in general. On the other hand, bad behaviour by females is simply swept under the carpet
- To be fair. Now that we have a greater awareness of this happening, let's have a mandatory time limit on the reporting of these offences. Thirty years on is too long to establish right or wrong. We now have enough things in place to make reporting easier for victims.
- I just got to wonder how many of these so called experiences are made up?
It all sounds good in the current environment where everyone just accepts these stories as fact.
People who have these experiences should report it to police instead of harbouring the events for years and years and years. The problem with bottling these events up for years and years and years, just how truthful is what is blurted out compared to what actually happened.
- The future is female, who come up with that crap
- If that T-shirt walked towards me I would throw a gallon of sump oil all over it.
- The T-shirt worn at the march tells everything about the real agenda here. The future is female.
- The words on the T-shirt say it all. Women don't want equality, they want to take over.
- If a man wore a shirt with the words, "the future is male", he would be accused of being a misogynist. At the risk of my comment being cancelled, what does that make Jonty?
- These women think all men are bad. Don't believe in the presumption of innocence. I know this because I was told I was wrong. Needed to know better. There's no such thing as common sense in these women's eyes.
- While their cause is admirable, far to many 'complainants' and protesters are in it just for the publicity with the list of demonstrably fraudulent 'stories' constantly growing.
This situation does absolutely nothing for the bona-fide cases and in fact the 'me too' bandwagon jumpers just undermine the credibility of genuine victims!
- How you stop this is report it to the police straight away. Don't leave it for years and then just want a trial by media. We already have laws that cover this but nothing is going to happen if you don't report it. Blaming Scomo is just crap politics.
- So often the common thread is alcohol! It is not an excuse for the accused OR for the complainant!
- This is a really dumb blog to be aired in Scomo/Dutton Queensland..... wet T-shirt competition, cook my dinner central!....omg, move beyond 5kms of the Brisbane CBD and you're in the boonies where men rule!
- This is a political march, they don't really want a resolution or they would have taken up the PM's offer. Behind closed doors doesn't suit them because it's all about dramatics for the media and mouthing off for the soul.
- The tired and recurring theme of the Left is their constant portrayal of a single bad person or incident as being representative of the whole. Sorry, we're not buying it here, or anywhere else for that matter.
- I'd be more interested in knowing how many of these women have reported the matter to the authorities responsible with dealing with such behaviour. I don't have any sympathy for those who are not prepared to do so, claiming privacy concerns,but then belatedly attempt to try the matter in the public media.
- So you demand men protect you when you label them all as rapists, nah that was the past generation before man hating feminists came along and told them to keep their stinking protectionist practices to themselves.
- You cannot prosecute if no crime is reported. It is also very difficult to make a case 1 to 30 years later
- Men are always trying it on Right or wrong it's birds and bees stuff. Primitive brain drives the desire to coupulate, education and manners teaches behavioural patters to men but you see this sexual tension come in all types of combinations, straight or otherwise. Though a few drinks in and bingo you get feelings and desires that can be observed to your natural behaviour. Been like this since the cavemen I would have thought, just some people have control problems
- Only thing we've heard from Jonty since the election. Starving for publicity. Wasted votes people
- That is an inconvenient observation, these protests are trying to set the narrative men evil, leftist female virtuous but not conservative females. The more they abuse men the less I am inclined to defend any but my wife and two daughters, best these protesters keep their abuse for the actual perps.
- These people are only offended when it involves the right side of politics. Sadly it's now about politics and gotcha politics, and not about the real issue.
- But the Prime Minister cannot 'fix' this problem. The states are solely responsible for the laws in this country that cover these crimes. What is alleged to have happened to Jonty Bush is terrible but I stress alleged as none of it has been tested. When will people learn that nothing good comes from being drunk, alone and in the wrong place. Unfortunately this is being hijacked and used as a weapon to attack certain political leaders as could be seen from some of the signage at the rally and a comment in this story. Just happens to be before a Federal election. This important issue will fall by the wayside as it is not be prosecuted in a bi-partisan way.
- So how is the government (Labor or Liberal) responsible for things that have happened in your life as none of this happened on government grounds. They are there to govern the country and are not responsible for everything you do or happens in your life. Respect for women and not having to put up with sexual assault, yes 100% agree but to expect them whoever is in charge to take responsibility of every person individually is not their job.
They can have rules and enforce within them within their workplace but to expect and blame them and in this cause blaming ScoMo for something that happens at the pub is just not realistic or fair. And to be honest your shirt "the future is female" makes you look like a male hater and does not help your cause. The future is male and female working together to make it a better world for each other equally.
Originally published as 'This is what's wrong with Australia': The vile sex assault comments we couldn't publish